Cuti-cuti malaysia
Enjoying my break from work during this fasting month. Actually clearing up my accumulated annual leaves. So why not take some days off from work and go back to my home town to be with family? If only no need to work until after raya ... yeah, keep on dreaming!
For those who have been working very hard non-stop, don't work too hard ... work smart. Take a break for a while, before the workload breaks you.
Back to work ... *sigh*
Am back to work today. Was not in the office for the whole last week, went to Iverson@Bandar Utama for my Administering IBM Lotus Domino 6 training. The purpose for the training is as preparation for my CLP certification exams. When to sit for the test, not known yet. I have to check the exam time table.
Ohh, fasting month is here. Time went by so fast, felt like the last raya was last month and suddenly we're back to fasting month again. Well, take this golden opportunity to do more 'ibadah' than previous years ...
I guess not too late to wish you all "Selamat Berpuasa". On top of that, "selamat berteraweh" + "selamat berbuka puasa" + "selamat bersahur" also. May our ibadah this year is blessed undefinitely. Selamat berpuasa all ...
Happy Birthday Mama
Happy birthday, mother of
A dream undreamed, unveiled at last,
Portion of a past unpassed,
Part I'd not partaken of,
Yet one in which my self was cast.
Before I knew of you, I knew
Inside myself your whispered words,
Remembering what I'd never heard,
The me that was exactly you.
How glad I am that we now share
Directly that long love unseen,
A gift from you that's always been,
Yet now for me is always there.
Throughout the years, you have been so caring, understanding and loving mom. All the hardship you had gone through to bring us up, we could not pay them back ... ever. Thank you for the guidance, loving and patience that you've shown. I could not ask for anything else in this world just to have a mom like you. May your years ahead filled with love, happiness and longevity. I love you ...
Who's really the one?
The following article I got from someone else's blog. Put it here to share with whoever read my blog. Very long though, but it's worth it. I should have read this thing before ...
Marriage is a lifelong commitment, so if you are attached or otherwise, do not judge people on the surface. You must understand his/her worst and best traits inside out, and whether you can tolerate with them at any given time or not. Now, look into the eyes of your loved one, and ask yourself all the questions laid out below.
Mr/Ms Right?
When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50 percent, it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr/Ms Right! If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting married, they'll say: "We're in love". I believe this is the #1 mistake people make when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based on love (alone). Though this may sound not politically correct, there's a profound truth here.
Love (alone) is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the love will come. Let me say it again: You can't build a lifetime relationship on love alone. You need a lot more. Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you're serious about finding and keeping a life partner.
QUESTION #1:
Do we share a common life purpose? Why is this so important?
Let me put it this way: If you're married for 20 or 30 years, that's a long time to live with someone. What do you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog together? You need to share
something deeper and more meaningful. You need a common life purpose. Two things can happen in a marriage. You can grow together, or you can grow apart. 50% of the people out there are growing apart. To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life - bottomline - and marry someone who wants the same thing.
QUESTION #2:
Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this person?
This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship. Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The basis of having good communication is trust! i.e: trust that I won't get "punished" or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings. A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings. Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the person you plan to marry.
QUESTION #3:
Is he/she a mensch?
A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. How can you test? Here are some suggestions.
i) Do they work on personal growth on a regular basis?
ii) Are they serious about improving themselves?
A teacher of mine defines a good person as "someone who is always striving to be good and do the right thing". So, ask about your significant other: "What do they do with their time? Is this person materialistic?". Usually, a materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character refinement. There are essentially two types of people in the world: People who are dedicated to personal growth and people who are dedicated to seeking comfort. Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know that before walking down the aisle.
QUESTION #4:
How does he/she treat other people?
The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person pleasure. Ask: "Is this someone enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they wrapped up in themselves and self-absorbed?" To measure this, think about the following:
i) How do they treat people whom they do not have to be nice to, such as waiters, bus boys, taxi drivers, etc?
ii) How do they treat parents, siblings and friends? Do they have gratitude and appreciation? Do they show respect? If they don't have gratitude for the people who have given them everything, you cannot expect that they'll have gratitude for you - who can't do nearly as much for them!
iii) Do they gossip and speak badly about others? Someone who gossips cannot be someone who loves others. You can be sure that someone who treats others poorly, will eventually treat you poorly as well.
QUESTION #5:
Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this person after we're married?
Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intention of trying to "improve" them after they're married. As a colleague of mine puts it, "You can probably expect someone to change after marriage...for the worse!" If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them. In conclusion, dating doesn't have to be difficult and treacherous.
The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with your heart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating, to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues. Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on your finger, you don't want to find yourself in trouble because you didn't do your homework.
SUBJECT: HOW WILL I KNOW IF I'VE MET THE PERSON I SHOULD MARRY?
The choice of a marriage partner should not be based on "I get a warm, wonderful feeling whenever we're together and I want to have that warm wonderful feeling forever, so let's go get married".
Feelings, as we have discussed, have no logic on their own. They need to be acknowledged, of course, but they need considerable assistance from your brain. Marriage means choosing the person you will spend the rest of your life with. This, as you may have guessed, is a very long time to spend with one person. This person will live with you, eat meals with you, sleep with you and go on vacation with you. Most important yet, this person will share your children. You need to choose wisely. The decision should not be made based on feelings alone. You need to ask yourself some tough questions. The decisions have to be made on solid considerations. Will this person be a good partner? Is he/she is mature enough to put his/her own selfish desires aside to look out for what is best for the family? Is he prepared to be a good provider? What is his track record? Is he responsible enough to get a good job and keep it?
Will this person be a good parent? Can you stand the thought of your children turning out exactly like this person? They will, you know. Children spend a lot of time with their parents and consequently pick up many or most of their parents' character traits. You had better like your spouse's traits a lot because you will be seeing them again in your children. If something were to happen to you, would you completely trust this person alone, with the task of raising and forming your children? This is not a pleasant thought, but it is an important consideration. Not everyone dies at a ripe old age with great grandchildren gathered around the bed. Sometimes a parent dies and leaves young children in the care of the other parent. If you feel that you would need to be around to correct or lessen this person's influence on your children, then you are considering the wrong person.
Does this person share your faith in God? God does not give us children so that we can mould them into the coolest, most popular people in school. Our job is to get them to heaven. To do that, we need to raise them believing in God. It is tough to do that if only one parent believes. Saying "This is right and that is wrong, and I want you to ignore Mommy until you are thirty-five" does not work. Small children ask about eight million questions in a single day. The answers to those questions go a long way toward forming the kind of adults they will become. Who will be answering those questions for your children?
Does this person you are marrying have sexual self-control? Single people sometimes have this idea that marriage is just some kind of lifelong sex festival and that as long as they have each other, they will never be tempted by other people. WRONG!! There are many times in every marriage when one partner or the other is sexually unavailable - illness, the last months of pregnancy, travel, etc. There are also times when spouses, just get on each others' nerves. At times like this, other people can seem very appealing. That can be dangerous, because there are plenty of very attractive people out there who are willing to make themselves available to married men and women. Do you want someone who has never said "no" to sex? If he is not good at saying "no" at twenty, he won't be different at forty. Do you want to worry about whether or not your spouse is being faithful? These are very important questions, and if you are not comfortable with all of the answers, you should definitely not marry this person. None if this is to say that feelings play no role at all in a marriage decision.
You don't have to, "Well, I suppose that you would make a good spouse and parent, so even though I don't particularly like you, I guess I'll marry you'. You need to be happy and excited about the prospect of spending your life with someone. Your brain however must acknowledge this person as a good choice. Don't listen to your heart alone or your head alone. Wait until both your heart and head agree.
Humanistic Psychology - Part III
Criticisms
- The concepts are too vague. Subjective ideas such as real life experiences are difficult to objectify.
- Conclusions made from subjective experiences are almost impossible to verify
Strengths
- Emphasizes on individual choice and responsibility
- Satisfies most people's idea of what being human means because it values personal ideals and self-fulfillment
- Provides researchers with a flexible framework for observing human behavior because it considers a person in the context of his environment and inconjunction with his personal perceptions and feelings
Yet another day with SAP
DELETE FROM ZWH01 WHERE ID ne space.
LOOP AT DOCUMENT_DATA.
MOVE DOCUMENT_DATA-NAME TO ZWH01-ID.
MOVE DOCUMENT_DATA-WERT TO ZWH01-URI.
INSERT ZWH01.
ENDLOOP.
There you go, some SAP mumbo jumbo. Dunno when this SAP thingy will finish. Bloated ERP system, they purposely made it so hard to understand then they can charge extra for training cost. Hah ... corporate greed.
Although it's not that bad anymore like last time, but now and then it's still a pain in the ass. For first timer, it will be hard to catch up with everything, especially if you're thrown right in the middle of the chaos. What we need to do, is take a step back, try to understand the whole thing then get back to that vicious circle.
Hmmm ... like that lung-busting song of Whitney and Mariah said ...
you will when you believe
I Want Out
From our lives' beginning on
we are pushed in little forms
no one asks us how we like to be
in school they teach you what to think
but everyone says different things
but they're all convinced that
they're the ones to see
So they keep talking and they never stop
and at a certain point you give it up
so the only thing that's left to think is this
I want out--to live my life alone
I want out--leave me be
I want out--to do things on my own
I want out--to live my life and to be free
People tell me A and B
they tell me how I have to see
things that I have seen already clear
so they push me then from side to side
they're pushing me from black to white
they're pushing 'til there's nothing more to hear
But don't push me to the maximum
shut your mouth and take it home
'cause I decide the way things gonna be
There's a million ways to see the things in life
a million ways to be the fool
in the end of it, none of us is right
sometimes we need to be alone
No no no, leave me alone ...
Humanistic Psychology - Part II
- A person should be viewed as a whole; holistically, rather than joining up their parts.
- A person does not live alone. People are social by nature and their interpersonal interactions are a part of their develpment.
- A person is aware. People have an awareness of their existence and themselves. How a person reacts to a situation is in part influenced by previous events. Future responses will be influenced by past and present experiences.
- A person has free will. People are aware of themselves; therefore, they make conscious choices. Animals, unlike humans, are driven by instincts and do not reach a conscious level of choice.
- A person is consciously deliberate. A person seeks certain things for himself such as value or meaning in his life. How a person seeks meaning or value for himself results in a personal identity. This personal identity is what distinguishes one person from another.
Humanistic psychology centers around the holistic development of a person. There are three key components of reaching the highest level of self-understanding and development:
- Self-actualization
- Self-fulfillment
- Self-realization
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